Giving Kids (and Ourselves) Grace During the Back-to-School Transition

Written by Michelle Poon, Registered Psychologist and Owner, Through the Woods Psychology

As summer comes to an end, many families are preparing for the transition back to school. While this time of year can bring excitement, it can also bring challenges. After weeks of later bedtimes, vacations, camps, and less structure, getting back into routine can feel difficult for both kids and adults.

As a psychologist and a mom of two, I know firsthand that transitions can be hard. We often expect children to adjust quickly, but the reality is that getting back into routines takes time. The good news is that routine and structure help children feel more secure, confident, and prepared for their day. Consistent routines also support sleep, emotional regulation, and overall well-being.

Here are a few simple ways to make the transition easier:

For Parents:

• Reintroduce predictable morning and evening routines.
• Talk about any worries or excitement your child may have about the new school year.
• Keep expectations realistic during the first few weeks.
• Focus on consistency rather than perfection.
• Start adjusting bedtimes and wake-up times before school begins.

For Kids:

• Practice your school sleep schedule.
• Pack your backpack and prepare for the next day the night before.
• Ask questions if you are feeling nervous.
• Take care of your body with sleep, healthy meals, and physical activity.
• Remember that it is normal to need time to adjust.

One thing I often remind families is that routines are not about being rigid. They are about providing predictability. When children know what to expect, they are often better able to manage challenges, transitions, and big emotions.

If the first few weeks feel a little messy, that’s okay. Give yourself and your child some grace. Small, consistent steps can make a big difference, and before long, the new routine will start to feel familiar again.

Wishing all families a smooth and successful start to the school year!

Michelle
Psychologist & Owner
Through the Woods Psychology
www.throughthewoods.ca



References

American Academy of Pediatrics. (2026). Back-to-school tips for families. HealthyChildren.org. https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/gradeschool/school/Pages/Back-to-School-Tips.aspx

American Academy of Pediatrics. (2026). Healthy sleep habits: How many hours does your child need? HealthyChildren.org. https://www.healthychildren.org/English/healthy-living/sleep/Pages/Healthy-Sleep-Habits-How-Many-Hours-Does-Your-Child-Need.aspx

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2024, May 15). About sleep. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. https://www.cdc.gov/sleep/about/index.html

Kids Mental Health Foundation. (2025). How routines help kids’ mental health. https://www.kidsmentalhealthfoundation.org/mental-health-resources/mental-wellness/kids-routines