Why Family Day Matters More Than We Think

Family Day is an important day to reflect on the importance of family. We can celebrate with family any day and anywhere, but Family Day is a good reminder about making time for our loved ones. There is no true definition of family, but family can be biological or chosen. Do not forget about our furry animals, even they can classify as our family members.

Did you know that Alberta introduced Family Day in 1990? It was a day meant to reflect and celebrate with family (CBC, 2020). I was fortunate to grow up with a loving and supportive family. Of course, there was family conflict, which is part of family relationships. I went through challenges with family, but it allowed me to learn resilience and the ability to hold space for difficult emotions. I have also created (still creating) lots of memories with family, which I will always cherish. Family members are always people I can count on in times of crisis or happy moments. My family plays the role of who I am today, and how I became a provisional psychologist. I grew an interest in studying human behaviour observing my own family patterns. My family have also allowed me to listen attentively and develop empathy early on. Lastly, my family has taught me patience which is an important part of therapy work.

I have also recognized that Family Day may not be a celebration for some individuals. Family Day can be a reminder of where love exists, but it also can be a painful time for others whether that is trauma, grief and loss and/or estrangement. Family Day could also be a day to honor survival, acknowledging grief, redefining connection and celebrating chosen family. I understand how painful it can be, but I want you to know that you are brave in facing pain and hurt rather than denying your experience. I am proud of you for allowing yourself to feel, reflect and heal.  You are not alone. We are here to help with your healing journey.

As a practitioner, I will ask about clients’ family backgrounds to have a better understanding of how individuals are shaped to who they are today. For example, our parents are our first teachers and what we are taught as children has a lasting impact in adulthood. In other words, family influences who we are today. Family relationships can also help me understand how clients relate to other people in their lives such as partners, friends, colleagues, etc. Most importantly, it also helps me understand how clients relate to themselves. Family background can help explain patterns that individuals develop. For example, family background may have contributed to a client’s perfectionism.

We can approach Family Day without pressure. Family is not about perfection, but it is about connection. Family Day looks different for everyone, but I hope you find what works for you to feel, reflect and heal.

Through the Woods Psychology, offers counselling for adults, children, and teens, both in person and online. If you’re curious about support, you’re welcome to visit our website or book your free consultation today to explore whether it feels like a good fit.  

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